arizonafreakinrobbins:

arizonafreakinrobbins:

brittanyox replied to your post:what did Callie do that helped fail the marriage?

This is the best response I have ever seen. Thank goodness Im not the only one who sees it this way!

Thank goodness I’m not alone because the responses being put on here are just disappointing and sad. 

I know! Its kinda pissing me off. Does no one understand ptsd? Does no one understand that Arizona lost her closest childhood friend. her leg and mark? Does no one understand the trauma that she went through during the plane crash? Shes been trying to hold herself together for her family, controlling everything that she does, says, feels. I am not condoning her cheating on Callie by any means but atleast try and see it from her point of view instead of just saying “Arizonas a bitch, she cheated, I hate her.” As for callie, she was so scared of losing Arizona after losing mark she wasnt seeing the person that Arizona was becoming after the plane crash. She just wanted the old Arizona back and for everything to go back to “normal” When you go through a trauma like that, its very hard to come back to being the exact same person that you once were, and I wish that people would just shutup and realize that.

Exactly! It speaks on some level to the lack of understanding when it comes to mental illness and the aftermath of trauma within society, which I find scary and horrible. I think a lot of people are saying “She cut off the leg to save her life, Arizona is being ungrateful”. And I mean, yes, Callie did it for the right reasons, and Arizona would have done the same if the roles were reversed. But the point is that perhaps Arizona didn’t WANT to live without her leg. And I think that’s something massive to understand, because imagine living with something for the rest of your life, when you really wanted to die and just end the suffering there. I don’t blame Callie because I don’t think she could have made a different call, and I don’t blame Arizona because I don’t know what it’s like to be in a plane crash, to spend 4 days watching everyone suffer, and then to wake up realizing the one thing you didn’t want to happen, happened at the hands of someone you trusted, even if somewhere deep inside you know you would have done the same thing.

Yes, exactly! If people could put themselves in her shoes and pretend to understand for a fraction of a second. They havent shown them talking about any of this. How do you go from trusting someone completely to not at all especially when they did the one thing you asked them not to even if it meant saving your life. Arizona bringing all that up again is just showing that shes not done healing. There are lot of things that she herself and Callie have to work though in order to get back to a happy place with each other. As sad and heart breaking as it is going to be watching it Im excited to see their journey unfold next season. Shondaland is a roller-coaster for a reason people! Enjoy the ride!

meanasurly:

Callie mentioned the plane and that set Arizona off. She screamed things she was holding in all season.

What she didn’t scream was “I cheated on you because you cut off my leg.”

She’s been holding all of that in about the plane crash. She’s been controlling herself.

Sleeping with Lauren was…